If you’re married to an alcoholic and they won’t do anything about their addiction, you can do more than just “put up with it.” Here are 5 things you can do that will help you endure, and may even lead to your spouse getting the help they need.
Go to an Al-Anon meeting. Find a good Al-Anon meeting in your area. You may have to shop around to find an effective one. Don’t settle for one where everyone is just complaining. And when you find a good one, go more than once a week. You will be educated about addiction and learn what you can expect living with an alcoholic. There are meetings for families and for teens as well.
Tell your spouse you’re attending meetings. Let your spouse know that you are attending the Al-Anon meetings because you want to work on your own behavior because you’re tired of living this way. Letting your spouse know that you’re seeking help may open their eyes to how serious the problem is.
Invite your spouse to speaker meetings. Find speaker meetings in your area and invite your spouse to attend with you. The speaker meetings are usually offered by treatment programs and offer good quality information. You can assure your spouse that no participation is required. You just go, sit down, listen, and leave.
Consider an interventionist. An interventionist is a professional who will conduct a face to face meeting with the addict and his or her family and friends to make the addict see the severity of their problem, the impact on others, and urge the addict to get treatment. An interventionist will also educate you about addiction and potentially help you recognize your own enabling behavior.
Have people pray for you and your spouse. Don’t underestimate the power of prayer. Have your close friends and family pray for your spouse and for you as you persevere. Knowing people are consistently praying for you will give you hope and strength.