- Most dysfunctional family situations thrive in an atmosphere of distrust, deceit and repressed emotions. You must establish clear boundaries for honest communication with family members.
- You have a limited obligation to “fix” another family member’s dysfunctional behavior. Often, well-meaning attempts to compensate for a family member’s behavior will enable and encourage the dysfunction. [Read more…]
- Realize that you can’t please everyone – even Jesus had trouble with that … And there was a grumbling among the multitudes concerning Him; some were saying “He is a good man“; others were saying, “No, on the contrary, He leads the multitude astray.” – John 7:12
- Difficult people thrive in the center of controversy … Like charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a contentious man to kindle strife – Prov. 26:21. Don’t be drawn into unnecessary situations. Misery really does love company! [Read more…]
- Do you feel like crying more often now than you normally have in the past? Do you feel sad or blue much of the time? When you see yourself in the mirror, do you appear to be sad, or do others comment that you no longer seem happy?
- Do you frequently have a sense of hopelessness or helplessness? Do you think that nothing matters or that nothing will do any good? Does the phrase, “What’s the use?” comes to mind frequently? [Read more…]
First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists.
Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. – Proverbs 28:13
You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong.
Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. – I John 2:16 [Read more…]
Don’t ignore, but rather respond to the message of your conscience. Guilt can be a merciless taskmaster that drives us far from God, or it can gently lead us back to a right relationship with Him, more fully convinced than ever of the Father’s love. How we respond to guilt today can determine our success in life for years to come.
Listen to your guilt objectively. If you are feeling guilty, your internal moral compass may be sounding an alarm. Maybe your guilt is justified, maybe not. Don’t embrace false guilt, but rather look at your situation in the light of objective truth and God’s Word … For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation; but the sorrow of the world produces death. – 2 Corinthians 7:10 [Read more…]