Forgiveness isn’t condoning the behavior.
To forgive isn’t saying, “What you did is okay.” It’s saying, “The consequences of your behavior belong to God, not to me.” When you forgive, you transfer the person from your own system of justice to God’s. To forgive is to recognize that the wrong done against you is a debt of sin, and all sin is against God. Therefore, in forgiving, you transfer the debt from your ledger of accounts to God’s, leaving all recompense in his hands.
Forgiveness isn’t forgetting what happened.
It would be foolish to erase from your mind some of the wrongs done to you. If you did, you’d never learn from your experiences and would relive the same situations, and consequently, disappointments. What can eventually be forgotten are the raw emotions associated with the event. When you forgive, the terrible memories and feelings gradually diminish. [Read more…]