Here are 10 questions to ask your spouse on date night.  Bring something to take notes of what the two of you discuss, so you can look back months—even years—from now.  You can even use a smart phone.  Or use a pen and journal to record it forever.              

  1. What is your favorite memory with your spouse?
    Share two or three memories that the two of you created together.  Focus on times early on in your marriage or even while dating.  Talk about why you loved it and how you can do something similar in the future; however, avoid talking about the kids.
  2. Is there anything that your spouse says that means a lot to you?If there’s something your spouse has said to you or someone else that made you feel good, talk about why it means so much to you.  If you can’t think of anything, talk about something he or she could say that you’d love to hear.
  3. What do you like the most about your spouse?
    Share three things with him or her.  These could be strengths, talents, character traits, good habits or anything else that drew you to your spouse.
  4. Is there anything about yourself that you’d like to work on?
    It could be stopping an unhealthy habit or starting something that would improve your life—a little or a lot.  It could be something you want to read more about, get counseling for, or join a group for help.  It could also be a little thing about yourself that bugs you or your spouse.
  5. How can you work together to make the world a better place?
    Write down an idea or two.  It could volunteering at a city mission or cleaning up the yard of someone who can’t.  Also, you could join up with a ministry like Habitat For Humanity and actually build something for someone else.
  6. What brings you the most joy and satisfaction in life?
    Tell each other what brings you joy, and talk about what stands in your way of experiencing it more often.  Discuss how you can work together to do what you love more often.
  7. Are there any adventures that you’d like to have in the future?
    Plan an adventure that you can go on in the near future.  It could be something as simple as staying in a hotel.  Or, it might be something you’ve always wanted to do but never have—renting an RV or staying in a cabin.
  8. At your funeral, what is your most important accomplishment that you’d like mentioned?
    Tell each other the one thing you’ve accomplished that you would like mentioned at your funeral.  Think of some statements, serious or fun, that could go on your tombstone.
  9. Do you have any regrets that have caused you pain?
    Talk about what happened and what you can do to ensure it doesn’t happen again in the future.  If regret is too strong a word, share about a situation, decision or tough time you wish you could do over.
  10. Is there anything that you’d like to accomplish to make your life better?
    Better is a great word. After all, there’s no downside to the word better. Tell each other what you’d like to do to make your life better.