Life Recovery Step Four: Make an Inventory

Life Recovery Step FourWhy does the prospect of making an honest personal inventory, as Life Recovery Step Four states, scare most people?

When someone does a personal inventory, there’s an enormous amount of pain involved. Why? Because it’s painful for a person to come to terms with how they’ve harmed themselves and others. So, out of all the 12 Steps, Step Four is often one of the most challenging steps.

Life Recovery Step Four says, “We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

It won’t be easy as a person takes stock of their life. (more…)

Writing Off the Debts People Owe

Writing Off the Debts People OweSome people keep a long list of all the wrongs that people have done. They are still holding others accountable for the debt they owe from years ago. Another way to describe this is unforgiveness.

For the person who holds onto unforgiveness, the one they’re hurting the most is themselves. One must learn to let go and erase that ledger of debt; then, and only then, will they be released from the pain that has held them captive all these years.

Jesus told a story to address this situation:

A king wanted to make his accounts current. So, one of his debtors, who owed him a million dollars, was brought before him. When the man begged for forgiveness, the king felt pity for him. (more…)

Life Recovery Step Three: Turn Your Life Over to God

Life Recovery Step ThreeFeeling disappointed? Have no hope? While no one knows what tomorrow will bring, God has a hope-filled future for the person who trusts Him.

Regardless of how challenging someone’s circumstances may seem right now—whether it’s addiction, hung up on an unhealthy habit, or pain from the past—it’s never too late to turn to God.

In Life Recovery Step Three, it says, “We made a decision to turn our wills and our lives over to the care of God.”

How? A person stuck in addiction lives life on their terms and for themselves. But when they decide to turn their will and life over to God, they will begin to find freedom from addiction. So instead of using willpower alone to overcome their struggles, they can use God’s power.

Bill Wilson, the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, said it best “Our whole problem had been the misuse of our willpower. (more…)

The Love Killer of Being Self-Centered

The Love Killer of Being Self-CenteredCan anyone ever completely figure out love? No, because the mysteries of love and how to make it work baffle even the most well-intentioned individual. From parenting to marriage, friendship to business relationships, most find their best efforts often fail, and disappointment finds its way into their most valued sphere of life.

Why is this? It all comes down to a basic orientation in how one views themselves and others. In other words, since Adam, people have been looking out for number one, which is the surest way to destroy a relationship. People tend to think of themselves first instead of the relationship itself. They are trying to get what they want instead of seeing the needs of others. And because of this self-orientation, they destroy all chances of getting what they want and need, which is love. (more…)

Life Recovery Step Two: Believe in a Power Greater Than Yourself

Life Recovery Step Two: Believe in a Power Greater Than YourselfJesus alone did what no one else could: He rose from the dead. And this is why Life Recovery Step Two says, “We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”

This same power that brought Jesus out from the grave is the same power that a person stuck in addiction can plug into and bring them to—and help them maintain—sobriety.

If the lamp is not plugged into an outlet, a lightbulb is of little value. Likewise, a person’s life will not shine to their family, friends, coworkers, and neighbors if not connected to God’s power source. It takes work, but the results are well worth it.

One way to plug into God’s power source is to connect to Him by talking to Him daily. This happens through a daily quiet time of prayer. But for the individual in recovery who has gotten away from this habit, it will be only a matter of time before they are tempted to use—which is always crouching around the corner—and fall prey to relapse. (more…)