How to Overcome Learned Helplessness

How to Overcome Learned Helplessness“We humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.” – Life Recovery Step Seven

Do you feel helpless in life, as if you have no control over anything? Feel like there’s nothing you can do about addiction, dependency, or unhealthy patterns? Expect other people to do all the work for you?

If so, you may struggle with learned helplessness. What is it? The concept of learned helplessness refers to a mentality that one develops after experiencing repeated challenges and coming to believe that they have no control over their life. Therefore, they feel helpless and give up trying to make changes. (more…)

Under Construction? Be Ready for God to Work

Under Construction? Be Ready for God to Work“We were entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character.”—Life Recovery Step 6

If you needed to remodel your house, where would you start? You would need to hire a contractor you trust and let them do the work. Similarly, if you are in recovery from addiction, you are under construction and God is your contractor. In Life Recovery Step 6, you must be ready for God to remove your defects.

Being under construction is difficult because most of us naturally try to hide our flaws. However, we can never truly hide from God. David told God, “You know my thoughts even when I’m far away” (Psalm 139:2, New Living Translation).

To become the person God wants us to be, humility is essential. James 4:10 says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.” How can we be ready for God to remove our defects? Here are a few things we can do: (more…)

Close the Gate on the Negative

Close the Gate on the NegativeMy friend grew up on a farm and once told me that her sole responsibility was to close the gate behind her. That way, the livestock couldn’t backtrack into a field of alfalfa.

Back then, she thought gate closing was tedious work—just a lot of waiting. Then something happened. She discovered that gate closing isn’t prestigious or exciting, but it’s vitally important.

There are many gates to close on the path to restoration and recovery. Closing the gate means not allowing anything negative in your life that might keep you from a sober and healthy life. But if you think you can do this on your own, you’ll be sorely disappointed. After all, it is Christ who opens and closes doors, as the Bible says, “What he opens, no one can close; and what he closes, no one can open” (Revelation 3:8, New Living Translation). (more…)

What is the Prerequisite for Sobriety?

What is the Prerequisite for Sobriety?Nowadays, most people think only of themselves. They want things done their way and in their time. Even some of the world’s most successful people try to promote why we should put ourselves first and be proud of ourselves and our achievements.

We should be grateful for the talents, skills, and gifts God has given us. There’s nothing wrong with this type of pride, but the kind of pride in which we become self-focused and self-elevating is wrong. Pride won’t help us in recovery. Instead, what we need most of all is humility.

Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary defines humility as “freedom from pride or arrogance: the quality or state of being humble.”


The Role of the Holy Spirit in Recovery

The Role of the Holy Spirit in RecoveryAre you being held back by addiction, or do you know someone who is? If so, breaking free may seem impossible. The harder you try, the more addiction seems to hold power over you. Though it may seem impossible to experience freedom, if you have a relationship with God, never forget that you have been given the Holy Spirit, the third person of the Triune God. Remember, “Everything is possible with God” (Mark 10:27, NLT).

What is the role of the Holy Spirit in recovery? Here are some of the ways the Holy Spirit helps with recovery. (more…)