After embarking on the journey of Life Recovery and completing Steps One through Eleven, the last step is Step Twelve. Step Twelve of Life Recovery says, “Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we have tried to carry this message to others, and to follow these principles in everything we do.”
To “carry this message to others” and to help them get off the wrong path and onto the right one, there are four important qualities one must have.
First, it takes courage. Whether at a meeting or in everyday life, God will provide many opportunities to share the message of Life Recovery. Find a Life Recovery Group, participate in the weekly meetings, invite others to attend, mentor someone, or even lead a Life Recovery Group. Learn how to start a Life Recovery Group.
Secondly, it takes gentleness. (more…)
Between parties and family get-togethers, staying sober during the holidays can be a challenge. Interacting with old friends and family members may stir up hard feelings, bad memories, difficult conversations, and tempting situations. But by following these tips, it’s possible to thrive—not just survive—this holiday season.
1. Have a plan in place.
Before going to a party or spending time with family, think about what will happen. Have a team of friends and accountability partners to provide support. Here are some questions to ask:
- “Who is going to be there?”
- “What feelings will this bring up?”
- “Am I even ready to go?”
Ever been in a conversation where the other person does all the talking? Having to deal with this is frustrating, right? It’s easy to feel unloved, unheard, and unseen when this happens.
How does this relate to recovery? It’s hard for someone in recovery to hear what God is saying to them if they do not take the time to listen to Him. As a result, they won’t experience a deep relationship with the Lord. By closing their ears, they are losing an opportunity for God to speak truth, hope, and peace into their lives.
This is why taking the time to go through Life Recovery Step Eleven is so important. (more…)
Does taking an ongoing personal inventory sound intimidating? Although it can bring sadness, it’s a necessary step to living a life of joy.
When recovery is going well, it’s easy to assume that the worst is over and that it’s time to celebrate by taking a day off. But not so fast! Should someone who is recovering from addiction take the day off? No! Sobriety doesn’t take a day off—nor does it get a vacation day. Recovery is a lifelong process that takes daily work. Life Recovery Step Ten says, “We continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.”
So, if a person in recovery is not careful and refuses or neglects to take an ongoing inventory as Life Recovery Step Ten requires them, they could relapse.1 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT) says, “If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall.” Part of a daily routine can include prayerfully taking a personal inventory. In a journal, such as the New Life Journal, write down one good thing that happened that day and one thing that needs improvement. (more…)
Tired of living in the shadow of yesterday’s mistakes? It’s not too late to go back and try to make amends.
One Bible story that teaches it’s never too late to make amends is the story of David and Jonathan—one of the most outstanding examples of friendship in history.
David and Jonathan were the best of friends despite the worst of circumstances. Saul, Jonathan’s father, was one of the most demanding challenges facing them. He ruthlessly hunted David and tried to kill him for years.Yet, Jonathan’s love for David was strong and didn’t diminish. So, Jonathan told him “Don’t ever withdraw your kindness from my household” (1 Samuel 20:14, CSB). As a result, David agreed and promised to show kindness to Jonathan’s family—including his descendants.
But David did not follow through as he had promised. (more…)
Making amends is painful. Doing nothing is painful. But nothing is as painful as keeping everything a secret.
In Life Recovery Step 8, it says, “We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”
Unfortunately, individuals stuck in addiction try to do damage control by trying to hide their addiction and not making amends to those they’ve hurt. Full of shame and self-condemnation, they avoid making amends at all costs because they think it’ll spare themselves—and those they love—from more hurt.
Here are four core shame-filled beliefs that keep a person stuck:
- “I am a bad and worthless person.”
- “If you really knew me, you wouldn’t love me.”
- “My addiction is my greatest need.” (more…)