Emotional Challenges of Overcoming Addiction

Emotional Challenges of Overcoming AddictionA person in recovery from addiction tends to experience feelings more intensely. Why? Now that they are no longer  medicating their feelings with drugs, alcohol, or fantasy, they are fragile. They’re more acutely aware of their own painful feelings rather than the pain they’ve inflicted upon others. It’s not a surprise, then, when they move on too quickly. Expecting others to trust them too soon is unrealistic—trust is to be earned and takes time.

So, individuals in recovery need to remember the years of pain, deceit, broken promises, and hardships created in their  addiction. These events have hurt their loved ones more than they realize. Their loved ones require support throughout the healing process. No one can fix their loved ones or undo the damage they have done. But through recovery, there is an opportunity for healing in relationships. (more…)

Tired of Recovery?

Tired of RecoveryPart of what can make a tempting situation worse is the condition of one’s mental and physical state when stressors occur. It is common for tempting situations to occur with more intensity at the early onset of sobriety, along with when someone is physically or mentally  drained. And this can seem more intense because sobriety is the healthiest option regardless of what has occurred. It is easy to get tired of recovery—but don’t give up!

Here are some options to consider to help when a person is tired of fighting this fight and wants to just give up because of the stressors of life.

Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still and know that I am God.” A person must ground themselves spiritually. Do not rush through prayer. (more…)

A Hunger for Love

A Hunger for LoveWhile a person may not want to say the words out loud, they struggle with hunger. It’s not a hunger for food but love. Admitting their need for love can be extremely difficult, especially if they have experienced pain from love. But it is the first step out of their addiction. They may have to probe and push to get in touch with the truth. And honesty is the way to start climbing out of the pit.

Being honest about the depth of a person’s emotional pain is extremely difficult. No one wants to get in touch with the root of the pain system—this renews the loss and deprivation that they’re trying desperately to avoid. Generally, a person’s apprehension twists their opinion of themselves, leaving them with low self-esteem. (more…)

6 Things Porn Does to the Brain

6 Things Porn Does to the BrainBefore porn, we were probably much happier, more confident, and socialized more. But later when we became fixated on porn, we began to experience problems in our lives. After all, our brains are like plastic—repeated stimulus, such as watching porn, affects the neurochemical balance in our brains. Here are 6 things porn does to the brain.

  1. Depression
    As we give in to the lure of porn, we may become depressed. It can leave us feeling tired, sad, irritable, unable to sleep, worthless, hopeless, and many more symptoms. Our amygdala is the part of our brain that helps deliver emotional responses like fear and pleasure. When the amygdala has constant exposure to cortisol, like while watching porn, it can become enlarged and more hyperactive. But we can deal with the detrimental effects of depression by seeing a doctor and a licensed Christian counselor. (more…)

Dangerous Self-Perception

Dangerous Self-PerceptionOne of the dangers of living in bondage to your compulsive behaviors for a while is that you may see yourself as more bad than good. This all-or-nothing type of thinking in life is extreme. When you think this way, every thought—from how you view yourself to how you view other people—can be divided into black-or-white terms. This leaves little room, if any, for the gray areas in-between.

In recovery, this type of self-perception is dangerous because it is not a true view of yourself. You need to see that you aren’t all bad; neither are you all good. If not, it creates a cycle of anxiety, shame, and depression. Having a realistic view of yourself will help you better understand your shortcomings; if you fail, you won’t see it as final. By having a more balanced view of yourself, you can move forward in your recovery. (more…)

The 3-Fold Path of Life Recovery

The 3-Fold Path of Life RecoveryIs your journey of Life Recovery going well? Or, are you overwhelmed at the path set before you of getting through all of the 12 Steps? If so, you are not alone. Whether it’s our first time in recovery or we’re getting back into it after a long break, the 12 Steps can seem intimidating.

Another way to look at the 12 Steps of Life Recovery is to see it as a 3-fold path—or, that there are three commitments we need to make. In other words, the 12 Steps call us to make a commitment to God, ourselves, and others.

Commitment to God
Dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living (more…)