Recovery and Spending

Recovery and SpendingMany in recovery find they need to set limits on their spending habits. Often, they will include financial accountability as part of their commitment to healing in general. Although addictions have dramatic effects on some individual’s finances, for many, their influence is more subtle and may lie ‘under the radar.’

Financial issues often surface when the person with the addiction begins to gain some control over their recovery by maintaining more extended periods of sobriety. As they start to feel victorious over their unhealthy habits, they may increase spending on gadgets, hobbies, or other compulsive purchases. In recovery, a relationship with God must become the primary focus. If someone is pursuing materialism, their financial idols will come into conflict with their spiritual walk.

Just as people handle finances reveals their true values, it also shows how they manage their lives. (more…)

The Truth About Grief

The Truth About GriefGrief can be misunderstood by many. But the most important truth about grief is that the grieving process is not going to end all of the pain. It can be devastating to lose a person who is very significant in someone’s life. People can also go through a loss of the way they view themselves or the way other people are going to view them.

When Steve Arterburn, founder of New Life Ministries, went through a divorce, he experienced a great deal of loss. In his grieving, he had to address his insecurity and fear of the future. But more than anything, it was the loss of a safe and intact home for his 12-year-old daughter that hurt him.

While he describes his sadness as feeling different now than it did then, he acknowledges that it’s still there. (more…)

10 Tips for Managing Depression

10 Tips for Managing Depression

  1. Do not expect too much too soon.
    This will only accentuate feelings of failure. And avoid setting difficult goals, or taking on ambitious new responsibilities, until a structured treatment process has begun.
  2. Break large tasks into small ones.
    Set some priorities. Do what can be done—when it can be done.
  3. Recognize patterns in mood.
    Like many people with depression, the worst part of the day may be the morning. Try to arrange the schedule accordingly so that the demands are the least in the morning. For example, shift meetings to midday or the afternoon.
  4. Participate in activities that may make one feel better. (more…)

How to Stop Obsessive Thoughts

How to Stop Obsessive ThoughtsObsessive thoughts are a struggle for so many. If left unchecked, however, these obsessive thoughts can play over and over in your head like a record that has a scratch. Your thoughts can change depending on the situation. But once they’ve entered your mind, you may not be able to get rid of them.

Some examples of obsessive thoughts are:

  • Fear of getting sick or dying.
  • Anxiety over cleanliness and organization.
  • Worry over forgetting something (Did I lock the door?).

If you struggle with obsessive thoughts, you may also worry about the future. In Matthew 6:34, Jesus said, “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Some things are out of your control. But in this passage, He encourages you to trust Him. In recovery, we learn what we have control over and how to surrender the things we don’t have control over. It is helpful to consider what is behind the obsession. (more…)

As Sick As Our Secrets

As Sick As Our SecretsOn the outside, we have it all together. But on the inside, we may have secrets that we’ve never told a soul. Our secrets lie below the surface. No one can see them; nevertheless, they are there. These secrets cause us pain and keep us from being fully known.

Secrets have the potential to destroy everything near and dear to us. But when we address our pain and bring our secrets out into the open, we’ll find healing.

Where do we feel pain? (more…)

Making New Year’s Resolutions Stick

Making New Year’s Resolutions StickOn New Year’s Day, we are excited to set New Year’s resolutions and accomplish them. But within 30 days, most of us quit.

We’re initially looking forward to doing whatever it takes to reach our resolutions. But as reality sets in, we become less and less excited. It’s hard work to meet our goals—many of us give up on them altogether.

Is there a way we can accomplish our New Year’s resolutions and make them stick? Yes, absolutely! We can learn three principles from farming.

Get rid of contaminants. (more…)