- Take a step of courage and place yourself in situations where you can meet people, like a church, social clubs or book club involving your interests. Say yes to invitations for gatherings you would otherwise find an excuse to not attend.
- If you want a friend – be a friend. Get involved in service or ministry opportunities. You will be connecting with others who are serving and who are in need of help.
- Proverbs 22:11 says – He who loves with a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. Keep your motives pure. Avoid manipulation and don’t desire someone’s friendship for social status or other selfish reasons.
- Don’t rush it. People desperate for friends often overwhelm potential friends by getting too personal too quickly. This can scare off acquaintances that might otherwise become friends over time. Deep, lasting friendships take time to develop.
- Proverbs 17:17 says – A friend loves at all times. Give your friends grace to fail you. They are not perfect and neither are you. When conflict inevitably arises, address it with gentleness and respect.
- Work on yourself. The healthier (emotionally, spiritually, physically) you become, the more you will be available as a friend. You will attract others who are also healthy which will create strong friendships.
- Smile. You’d be amazed at how people will respond to a simple smile. You may be the bright spot of their day. A smile is like an open door for connection. Say hello every once in a while too!
- Be honest, but loving. Proverbs 27:6 tells us that wounds from a friend can be trusted. Be very careful with criticism. It should always be given to restore and build up, never to tear down.
- Listen! Friends are those rare people who ask how you’re doing, and actually wait for the answer. Develop good communication skills and share life with others.
- Continue to make friends! The old saying says ‘make new friends but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold‘. Our lives are enriched by the relationships in our lives and we all need friends!
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