8 Tips When Your Adult Child Struggles With Addiction

8 Tips When Your Adult Child Struggles With AddictionDoes your adult son or daughter struggle with addiction to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, or something else? Then, no doubt, you’re concerned for their physical and emotional well-being. You’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to work. Unfortunately, your relationship with them is getting worse. Is there any hope? Yes! Here are some tips:

1. Stop Living in Denial. Often, as parents, it’s easier to stay in denial rather than face reality. Pretending it’s not happening will hurt you, your child, and your entire family. Jeremiah 6:14 (TLB) reminds us, “You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there!(more…)

Breaking Out of the Prisons We Create

Breaking Out of the Prisons We CreateSome of us are in prison. Not a prison made of four walls, but the worst kind of prison–a self-made prison.

Our prisons are built decision by decision, habit by habit. They could be prisons of . . .

  1. Anger, shame, or other painful emotions
  2. Addictions or unhealthy habits
  3. Abusive and toxic relationships

In our prisons, we get too comfortable and stay there. Why?

Because (1) working through our past trauma of anger, shame, or other painful emotions is hard, so we avoid facing the pain. (more…)

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe People

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe PeopleAre you tired of attracting unsafe people? When you start to surround yourself with safe people, you will form healthier relationships. David put it this way, “Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers,” (Psalm 1:1).

If you want to attract safe people, you must take steps to become a safe person yourself. Also, you will need to identify whether someone is safe. To help you, here are the top ten traits of unsafe people. (more…)

Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them Both

Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them BothFrom the moment we take our first breath, we need a healthy bond with our parents. When we are hungry, our parents feed us; and if we fall, they pick us up. This secure connection sets the stage for healthy relationships in the future. By having a secure attachment, we feel seen, heard, and understood.

As we get to be older, we go off to school and learn how to develop relationships with others. And at the end of the school day, we come back home to our parents and hopefully get our needs met. This bond gives us the stability to learn to separate from unhealthy people and relationships. It can also help us to develop boundaries.

What if we did not form a strong, healthy bond with our parents? (more…)