You may think it’s okay to talk to your spouse like this:
- “You’re too sensitive!“
- “Don’t eat that!“
- “You’re so messy; get your act together!“
You may even think you’re doing them a favor by pointing out what they need to do to improve. But this is criticism, and it will ruin your marriage. After all, no one likes to be criticized. When you criticize your spouse, it will only make them defensive. Instead, give up criticizing—it might just save your marriage!
The next time you find yourself putting your spouse down or suggesting something they can improve upon, why not find something you admire, or are grateful for, in him or her—it could just transform your relationship! (more…)
Articles on Recovery, Relationships/Marriage
- Take a step of courage and place yourself in situations where you can meet people, like a church, social clubs or book club involving your interests. Say yes to invitations for gatherings you would otherwise find an excuse to not attend.
- If you want a friend – be a friend. Get involved in service or ministry opportunities. You will be connecting with others who are serving and who are in need of help.
- Proverbs 22:11 says – He who loves with a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. Keep your motives pure. Avoid manipulation and don’t desire someone’s friendship for social status or other selfish reasons.
- Don’t rush it. People desperate for friends often overwhelm potential friends by getting too personal too quickly. This can scare off acquaintances that might otherwise become friends over time. Deep, lasting friendships take time to develop. (more…)