Should I Forgive Someone Who Doesn’t Repent?

Should I Forgive Someone Who Doesn’t Repent?“‘Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?’ ‘No, not seven times,’ Jesus replied, ‘but seventy times seven!‘” – Matthew 18:21-23

Someone hurt you and they never apologized. You never saw any remorse and it hurt you deeply. By not taking responsibility, they added more pain, making matters worse. So you have decided not to forgive them; after all, you don’t have to forgive since they didn’t apologize—right? Well, actually that is wrong.

There is a lot of misinformation on forgiveness. Many people believe—or have been taught (more…)

20 Tips to Defeating Addictions

20 Tips to Defeating AddictionsIt does not matter what you are addicted to.

If you are willing to allow God to make a way, and get into his system of recovery, God will make a way! The strength to defeat your addiction will not come from you but from God. But you have to go to him with your weakness and join his program in order to receive his strength. Here are some tips to help you get started in your journey to recovery! (more…)

God Helps You Get Through the Fire

God Helps You Get Through the FireHow are diamonds made? They go through three steps to be refined: First, they’re put under a pressure of 735,000 pounds per inch. Next, they’re put under the extreme heat of 2,200 Fahrenheit. Finally, they’re cut.

If you’re struggling with addiction, you must go through a similar process of being refined during recovery. It involves going through fire to get rid of unhealthy patterns and creating healthy patterns to purify you. Don’t expect God to take all your difficulties away—He won’t. But remember Jesus is God in human flesh and will help you endure the fiery furnace.

Here are some ways He helps you in recovery. (more…)

Controlling Anger

Controlling AngerWe have all been there at one point in our lives. Our spouse, kids, boss, neighbor, or friend does or says something that upsets us, and all of a sudden, we feel the pressure begin to build. You start to feel tight around the collar like the dry cleaner put too much starch on it. Heat builds up around the ears, and you feel your face begin to flush. As you continue to think about the action or what was said, it increases. Your heart pounds, and life begins to go in slow motion. You can almost hear NASA control: “T-minus 10, 9, 8…

What you do or say at this moment may affect the next few minutes, hours, days, or even years. (more…)

Behavior Change and Heart Change

Behavior Change and Heart ChangeMost of us, at one time or another, have wished that we were a different person. These thoughts may come to us when things are not going well, or in times when we are in trouble. We may feel shallow or inadequate in these times. Our behavior may have been offensive or unacceptable to others, and we may be embarrassed or overcome with guilt.

When it comes to making personal changes in our lives, it can be just as difficult. Often the focus is on changing our behaviors and our habits, but these are often not long lasting. More often than not, our efforts are pointed at negative habits and behaviors, and we put a lot of effort into trying to avoid them. It often does not occur to us to ask ourselves what to do to replace these behaviors.

While heart changes are more lasting, they cannot be made all at once. This is the point of Life Recovery – it is a new way of doing life. Recovery is not an event, but a journey. (more…)