Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them Both

Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them BothFrom the moment we take our first breath, we need a healthy bond with our parents. When we are hungry, our parents feed us; and if we fall, they pick us up. This secure connection sets the stage for healthy relationships in the future. By having a secure attachment, we feel seen, heard, and understood.

As we get to be older, we go off to school and learn how to develop relationships with others. And at the end of the school day, we come back home to our parents and hopefully get our needs met. This bond gives us the stability to learn to separate from unhealthy people and relationships. It can also help us to develop boundaries.

What if we did not form a strong, healthy bond with our parents? (more…)

How to Form Healthy Relationships

How to Form Healthy RelationshipsHe who seeks a friend without a fault remains without one.” – Anonymous

Do you have a fear of abandonment? Were you hurt at a very young age? Is it hard for you to form safe, secure relationships? If so, it may be keeping you from bonding with others.

You want to have healthy relationships; yet, you are frightened and scared and pull away. Also, are you tired of trying to form new relationships because you always get hurt? Here are three tips to help you form healthy attachment in relationships. (more…)

12 Steps To Recovery From Divorce

12 Steps To Recovery From DivorceGoing through a divorce is one of the most painful things we may ever have to face. The losses we experience seem overwhelming. But there are spiritual principles to help us heal from our past and move toward a brighter future. These Twelve Steps will enable us to work through our issues and recover from divorce.

  1. Recognize our powerlessness and accept God’s power to restore our broken lives. We need to acknowledge that we need someone other than ourselves to be in control. “I know that nothing good lives in me” (Rom. 7:18). (more…)

What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?

What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like? Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve had a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Here are six key attributes that every friendship, marriage, and relationship need.

1. Affection
Affection is one of the best ways to show love. However, if you grew up in a family where affection was not shown, it may be hard for you to show affection. When one person loves another, it is normal and healthy to show affection for each other. (more…)