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Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them Both

From the moment we take our first breath, we need a healthy bond with our parents. When we are hungry, our parents feed us; and if we fall, they pick us up. This secure connection sets the stage for healthy relationships in the future. By having a secure attachment, we feel seen, heard, and understood.

As we get to be older, we go off to school and learn how to develop relationships with others. And at the end of the school day, we come back home to our parents and hopefully get our needs met. This bond gives us the stability to learn to separate from unhealthy people and relationships. It can also help us to develop boundaries.

What if we did not form a strong, healthy bond with our parents? (more…)

13 Keys to Reaching Your Goals

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We all love a promise of a fresh start! Where do we begin? Here are some keys to achieving your goals:

Start with God. Trusting God with your goals means believing that He is the source of all good things and that He can instruct you about what is good.
Make following God your primary goal, then as you reach your other goals, He will guide you in determining what they are and in reaching them.
To reach your goals, say “yes” to who you are and “no” to others’ definitions and expectations of you.
Sometimes it is just not God’s will that we reach a particular goal. Yet it is not His will that you never reach any of your goals. If that seems to be happening, look for how it may be a pattern in your life that needs addressing. (more…)