Your Side of the Street

Your Side of the StreetEver look across the street and compare your neighbor’s lawn or house to yours?

No doubt you have—we all have. We look to find flaws in other people’s marriages, children, careers, and bodies. Even worse, we blame others for our addictions, broken relationships, failures, and . . . the list goes on and on.

Sound familiar?

Christ talked about the dangers of concentrating on other people’s faults when He said, “Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye“(Matthew 7:5). (more…)

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe People

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe PeopleAre you tired of attracting unsafe people? When you start to surround yourself with safe people, you will form healthier relationships. David put it this way, “Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers,” (Psalm 1:1).

If you want to attract safe people, you must take steps to become a safe person yourself. Also, you will need to identify whether someone is safe. To help you, here are the top ten traits of unsafe people. (more…)

Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them Both

Bonding and Boundaries: Why You Need Them BothFrom the moment we take our first breath, we need a healthy bond with our parents. When we are hungry, our parents feed us; and if we fall, they pick us up. This secure connection sets the stage for healthy relationships in the future. By having a secure attachment, we feel seen, heard, and understood.

As we get to be older, we go off to school and learn how to develop relationships with others. And at the end of the school day, we come back home to our parents and hopefully get our needs met. This bond gives us the stability to learn to separate from unhealthy people and relationships. It can also help us to develop boundaries.

What if we did not form a strong, healthy bond with our parents? (more…)

How to Form Healthy Relationships

How to Form Healthy RelationshipsHe who seeks a friend without a fault remains without one.” – Anonymous

Do you have a fear of abandonment? Were you hurt at a very young age? Is it hard for you to form safe, secure relationships? If so, it may be keeping you from bonding with others.

You want to have healthy relationships; yet, you are frightened and scared and pull away. Also, are you tired of trying to form new relationships because you always get hurt? Here are three tips to help you form healthy attachment in relationships. (more…)

Laws of Life Recovery You Need to Live By

Laws of Life Recovery You Need to Live ByOn the path of life recovery, do you often find yourself veering off course?

Staying in your lane and following the speed limit will help to protect you on the road. Similarly, when it comes to changing the course of your life, you need structure and guidance to stay on the path to recovery.

You may struggle with addiction such as chemical dependency, or you might simply be tired of having unhealthy relationships. No matter the issue you are facing, it may seem as if your life has spun out of control. If you want to stay on track and succeed in recovery, (more…)