3 Steps to Transparency in Recovery

3 Steps to Transparency in RecoveryHave you been attending a recovery group for some time but haven’t made any progress in overcoming addiction, unhealthy habits, or painful struggles? Then, perhaps you need to be more transparent.

The Webster’s Dictionary defines transparent as: “free from pretense or deceit; easily detected or seen through; readily understood; characterized by visibility or accessibility of information.”

Want to be transparent in your recovery? There are three steps you must take.

Step 1: Come out of hiding.
The first step to transparency in recovery is to come out of hiding. It all started with Adam in the Garden of Eden. Eve gave Adam the fruit that God had forbidden them to eat, and he ate it. Instead of being transparent, Adam put on fig leaves and hid from God. God asked, “Where are you?” (more…)

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe People

Top 10 Traits of Unsafe PeopleAre you tired of attracting unsafe people? When you start to surround yourself with safe people, you will form healthier relationships. David put it this way, “Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers,” (Psalm 1:1).

If you want to attract safe people, you must take steps to become a safe person yourself. Also, you will need to identify whether someone is safe. To help you, here are the top ten traits of unsafe people. (more…)

Learning To Say No

Learning To Say No Is it hard for you to say no? If so, you may need to develop boundaries. Knowing how to say no and when to stand up for yourself can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve been a people-pleaser in the past. It is like a muscle that needs to be built and exercised. To help you, here are some tips to learn to say no.

  1. Take Responsibility
    You are responsible for your feelings. However, you’re not responsible for someone else’s feelings. If you feel you were not given a voice, you may feel responsible for how other people feel. And it might be hard for you to talk about your feelings. Start with someone you feel comfortable with, and practice disagreeing on small matters. This will help you gain confidence and understand how to own your truth. (more…)

What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?

What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like? Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve had a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Here are six key attributes that every friendship, marriage, and relationship need.

1. Affection
Affection is one of the best ways to show love. However, if you grew up in a family where affection was not shown, it may be hard for you to show affection. When one person loves another, it is normal and healthy to show affection for each other. (more…)

Loneliness: 10 Tips for Finding Friends

  1. Take a step of courage and place yourself in situations where you can meet people, like a church, social clubs or book club involving your interests. Say yes to invitations for gatherings you would otherwise find an excuse to not attend.
  2. If you want a friend – be a friend. Get involved in service or ministry opportunities. You will be connecting with others who are serving and who are in need of help.
  3. Proverbs 22:11 says – He who loves with a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. Keep your motives pure. Avoid manipulation and don’t desire someone’s friendship for social status or other selfish reasons.
  4. Don’t rush it. People desperate for friends often overwhelm potential friends by getting too personal too quickly. This can scare off acquaintances that might otherwise become friends over time. Deep, lasting friendships take time to develop. (more…)