Can anyone ever completely figure out love? No, because the mysteries of love and how to make it work baffle even the most well-intentioned individual. From parenting to marriage, friendship to business relationships, most find their best efforts often fail, and disappointment finds its way into their most valued sphere of life.
Why is this? It all comes down to a basic orientation in how one views themselves and others. In other words, since Adam, people have been looking out for number one, which is the surest way to destroy a relationship. People tend to think of themselves first instead of the relationship itself. They are trying to get what they want instead of seeing the needs of others. And because of this self-orientation, they destroy all chances of getting what they want and need, which is love. (more…)
“I refuse to believe the lie that I am stuck forever. I exercise my freedom to choose to do the next best thing.” – Steve Arterburn
Do you make your own decisions? Or do you let others decide for you? God wants you to make decisions in your life. He gave you a mind to use; He wants you to look to Him for guidance. You should be your own decider—not other people.
As a child, your parents made decisions for you. But now as an adult, you have the right to make choices in life. God wants you to make your own decisions and to incorporate His will and plan in every aspect of your life, including relationships. And it will help if you realize two concepts. (more…)
You may think it’s okay to talk to your spouse like this:
- “You’re too sensitive!“
- “Don’t eat that!“
- “You’re so messy; get your act together!“
You may even think you’re doing them a favor by pointing out what they need to do to improve. But this is criticism, and it will ruin your marriage. After all, no one likes to be criticized. When you criticize your spouse, it will only make them defensive. Instead, give up criticizing—it might just save your marriage!
The next time you find yourself putting your spouse down or suggesting something they can improve upon, why not find something you admire, or are grateful for, in him or her—it could just transform your relationship! (more…)
Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like? Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve had a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Here are six key attributes that every friendship, marriage, and relationship need.
Affection is one of the best ways to show love. However, if you grew up in a family where affection was not shown, it may be hard for you to show affection. When one person loves another, it is normal and healthy to show affection for each other. (more…)