Close the Gate on the Negative

Close the Gate on the NegativeMy friend grew up on a farm and once told me that her sole responsibility was to close the gate behind her. That way, the livestock couldn’t backtrack into a field of alfalfa.

Back then, she thought gate closing was tedious work—just a lot of waiting. Then something happened. She discovered that gate closing isn’t prestigious or exciting, but it’s vitally important.

There are many gates to close on the path to restoration and recovery. Closing the gate means not allowing anything negative in your life that might keep you from a sober and healthy life. But if you think you can do this on your own, you’ll be sorely disappointed. After all, it is Christ who opens and closes doors, as the Bible says, “What he opens, no one can close; and what he closes, no one can open” (Revelation 3:8, New Living Translation). (more…)

How We Talk to Ourselves

How We Talk to OurselvesI blew it.” “I’m a failure.” “I’ll never amount to much.

Sound familiar? Voices like these are how many people talk to themselves. It is important to note that everyone has self-talk. But sadly, most people talk to themselves negatively.
Every person talks to themselves throughout the day by planning, acting, evaluating, and judging their behavior. Because this is so much a part of a person’s life, it becomes essential that everyone monitors their self-talk just as they would their bank account.

Psychologists say that it takes seven positive comments for someone to erase one negative word. It’s also valid for how a person speaks to themselves—one negative thought such as “I’m unworthy of love,” and there will need to have seven positive self-talk statements to erase it! (more…)

6 Tips to Finding Contentment in a Crisis

6 Tips to Finding Contentment in a CrisisAre you going through a crisis right now? Though your circumstances may seem bleak, take heart—there’s hope! You may be discontent right now during these hard times you are going through. The Apostle Paul struggled with difficult days, too, but he learned that it’s possible to be content with very little. 1 Timothy 6:6 says, “True godliness with contentment is itself great wealth.” Here are some tips to help you find contentment in a crisis.

1. Ask for Help.
Since going through a crisis is difficult, if not impossible, you may need to get help. If you need resources, whether it is financial, spiritual, or something else, your church may be a good place to start. (more…)

Shifting from Scarcity to Gratitude

A scarcity mindset develops from a feeling of lack. You think there is a scarcity of what you need or think you need. It stems from believing that everything is limited—so you cling to everything from possessions to toxic relationships.

As a child, were your basic needs for food, shelter and love never met? And now that you’re an adult, are you afraid you won’t get these needs met? If so, you may have grown up with a scarcity mindset.

Living with a scarcity mindset is dangerous because, as Proverbs 24:34 says, it will “attack you like an armed robber.” This mindset threatens to destroy everything you hold dear — we become greedy and not generous when feeling like we don’t have all that we need. (more…)

10 Steps to Emotional Freedom

  1. Make amends
    Take steps to correct any problems you may have caused for others and acknowledge to them your regret for causing difficulty in their lives . . . Pursue peace with all men and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. – Heb. 12:14
  2. Make friends with failure
    The fear of failure can hold you back from success. Most successful people have failed many more times than they’ve succeeded.
  3. Don’t say yes when you mean no
    If you feel it is always your “duty” to say yes to a certain person, that may be reflective of an unhealthy relationship.

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