You may think it’s okay to talk to your spouse like this:

• “You’re too sensitive!“
• “Don’t eat that!“
• “You’re so messy; get your act together!“

You may even think you’re doing them a favor by pointing out what they need to do to improve. But this is criticism, and it will ruin your marriage. After all, no one likes to be criticized. When you criticize your spouse, it will only make them defensive. Instead, give up criticizing—it might just save your marriage!

The next time you find yourself putting your spouse down or suggesting something they can improve upon, why not find something you admire, or are grateful for, in him or her—it could just transform your relationship! [Read more…]