Why You Must Be Honest About Your NeedsAre you reluctant to ask for what you need? You’re not alone. Too many of us are too scared to admit we need help, let alone ask for what we need. We think it’s a sign of weakness. But when we keep everything inside, it’s a sign of pride and self-sufficiency, which go against the grain of a healthy dependence upon God and the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

Step One in Life Recovery says, “We admitted that we were powerless over our problems and that our lives had become unmanageable.”

There are three reasons why you must be honest about your needs.

First, God wants to give you good things. He’s hoping you’ll humbly admit that you have needs. Don’t be afraid to ask others for help. Remember, God made us to relate—and love—one another. God is our Heavenly Father. Even if your earthly parents were not good parents, God is a good heavenly Father and wants to give you good things. But you’ll never get it unless you ask, as Matthew 7:9-11 (NLT) says:

You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.

Second, God did not design you to live life alone. If you’re “the strong” one who is always lending a hand and seeing that others are taken care of, it’s hard to let someone know you need help, but it’s important that you do it. We need more two-way streets in our Christian communities. If you haven’t found a good Christian community that supports your recovery and can help you get your needs met, find a Life Recovery Group online or in person here.

Third, God wants you to persevere by continuing to ask and seek help. We can learn from the parable of the persistent widow (see Luke 18:1-3). She was a needy widow who was certainly brave enough to ask for help and keep asking for help from an unjust judge. At first, the judge says no to the widow. Nevertheless, she refused to give up and continued to persevere. As a result, the judge said yes to her request.

There’s a famous quote from an unknown author that says, “Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.”

Like the persistent widow, trust a gracious, loving, and merciful God to supply your needs.

by Steve Arterburn